Seeking physical beauty in your wife to be, is it shallow?

When it comes to dating and seeking potenial mates, I put a great deal on how my date looks. it's not that I'm shallow and can't get past looks but I want my wife to be attractive.Seeking physical beauty in your wife to be, is it shallow?
it is natural for you to want your wife to be attractive....





acttractive to society means being thin, having large enough boobs and curvy hips. And, of course, you would have to be attracted to her facial features.





This is natural because the bigger her boobs and curvier her hips, the better of a ';mate'; she will be...she will be able to have children (hips) and be able to feed them (boobs.) The thin-average waist constitutes that she is physically fit and takes care of herself, which will mean that she will take care of your children as well. And the nice facial features means that she will pass on those triats you like to your children.





So, it is natural to want your wife to be attractive. But, she should also come with the personality, and you can always exchange a little of the looks for a little of the personality. It is important to remember that you will be doing a lot more together than having sex...you'll be raising a family, sharing everything, and coming to together to make life decisions. So if she's hot AND you can have a good conversation that lets you know you're on the same page and have the same values, I say propose.





Good luck finding that. Damn primal instincts screw it all up for ugly girls.





And, by the way, women unconsciencly look for men who can provide for their families...and that means you need to be smart and have money in today's world. The smarter and richer you are, the higher your standards can be of a woman. Looks don't matter as much for men, supposedly.Seeking physical beauty in your wife to be, is it shallow?
That's not shallow. Beauty is a subjective thing (meaning you can't give it a score - or at least not one that everyone agrees on). What's attractive to you may not be attractive to the next guy. My husband and his brothers are all married and we all (their wives) are as different as can be - both physically and in our personalities. Some have dark hair, some lighter. Some are tall, some medium, some short. Some are thinner and some are curvier (and some are even heavier). But I would feel pretty safe to say that each of my brothers-in-law, and my husband, married someone they believe is beautiful and someone to whom they are physically attracted.





I believe it is important to date people you are attracted to because you want to marry someone who is attractive and ';you marry who you date';, right? As far as you (or other people) thinking that you are 'shallow' for wanting a beautiful spouse, that's nonsense. I wouldn't suggest allowing too much of other people's thinking to influence a decision about a person that YOU alone are going to commit to. And I certainly wouldn't suggest you 'punish' yourself or perhaps try to make youself feel less shallow or more 'virtuous' by dating someone you don't find attractive. That's not fair to either of you because there are people who will genuinely desire her and seek to be with her (the hypothetical 'unattractive' girl) and she deserves someone who feels that way as much as you deserve someone who 'lights your fire' too. :-)





Good luck!
i think wanting your partner to be attractive is a good thing, i know i want mine to be attractive....but putting a great deal of stress on their looks is not so good. notice her personality and her interests and go deeper than looks because caring mainly about looks is, to me, very shallow. women like men who care about them deeper than the physical and who take much interest in them on a more intellecual base...start looking deeper than what you see on the outside.





i stopped talking to a guy completely because i figured out that the only reason he was interested in me was because of the way i look. that really made me feel like crap lol. but thats just me...i'm someone who cares much more about intellect than looks. i mean, how can you really be happy when your in a relationship that only matters on looks? if shes not wearing makeup one day and has her hair all messy and oily, how will you react?





you need a relationship in which you can feel chemistry and connection with your mate AND like the way she looks.





balance my friend....BALANCE.
I can't say that it's shallow. It hasn't made you a mean ruthless person to others, has it? Everyone has traits that they find attractive in the opposite sex. It's just nature. You are usually physically attracted to your mate anyway. I know I want an attractive man. Not necessarily one that is so hott that it makes other women jealous... just a man that turns me on. You know?
Not at all.


I would recommend that you try to imagine your wife- to- be in several scenarios before you make your decision.


Example


How does she look without make-up if she wears it?


How would she look pregnant?


How would she look older or really old?


How would she look if she gained some weight or lost weight?


How would she look if she didn't fix her hair or changes her hair?
No, it's not shallow, but watch out! A lot of girls who know they look great, know how to work you. Remember that swans bite!!! A lot of good looking girls have great personalities, though, so take your time and don't go for the hottest, go for the best dmn combo you can find!!!
Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly is to the bone!





I've never met anyone that didn't say they wanted their future partner to be attractive. But, if that's all you care about, you're setting yourself up for a major letdown.
If that's your main concern, then yes, it is shallow, but there's nothing criminal about it. Carry on. It's normal to want your mate to be physically attractive to you though.
No, its not shallow, its normal.





Its just said for girls like me who miss out on great guys because our genetics are defective.