I used to think I would, then I watched this program called ';Toddlers and Tiaras';. It showed all these little girls in these pageants with makeup caked on their faces 3 inches thick. It showed them prancing around in swim suits, and how upset they got when they didn't win. The thing thats so crazy to me, is the entry fees were like $1000 dollars for each contest, not counting the money spent on clothes, dance/singing lessons, blah blah, but the 1st prize was less than the entry fee. I would think the parents would rather put that money into an account to secure their child's education!Parents - what is your view on beauty pageants?
I really don't like them. What kind of message are we sending our young girls? It's bad enough they are bombarded with these media images of very thin, big boobed women all the time. I am more against them though because of the parents. Most of the parents are just awful in these, they are pushy, critical, competitive and outright psychotic. The children don't have fun, I don't care what parents say, I refuse to believe a little child is having fun being stuck inside, practicing talents, parading around instead of playing in the mud outside. These parents also don't let the children play much in between pageants, for fear of them getting cuts or bruises. children just like to make their parents happy. I guess these adults feel they have something to prove to everyone when they want their children to win so badly.
I'm not against them and i'm not for them. They are what they are...if my future daughters want to participate in them and if it makes them happy than great, i won't forbid them from doing it. But i won't push them to their breaking point so they can get some stupid crown...it's important to me that they do things that make them happy. If that means competing in a beauty pageants than so be it, i'll support them and help them as much as they need it.
I think it's ridiculous that some parents push and push and push their kids to do better when they're already doing great. They're doing something they enjoy, it's terrible that some parents suck the fun out of it for them by criticizing them constantly.
I can see maybe doing one or two. However many mothers seems to be living their dream through there kids. Little girls should look like little girls not barbie dolls. If the kid is truely intrested in doing something like that then go for it. I have seen several shows were parents drag their kids kicking and screaming and spend a paycheck on one dress in hopes to win. I think it gives a wrong impression on a child. I understand they have scholarships as prizes but in the end I think it is awful to put your kids in it.
I just don't like the idea of my 4 year old daughter, perfect skin and so fragile, with makeup caked on her face, and her hair so fresh, so clean, so undamaged, hairsprayed to the point where if it got messed with it would break off. I don't think its good for her skin and hair at all.
And teaching them that its for the money, and they have to be SOOOO this and SOOOO that, if they want to win...and then when they dont..they feel unconfident and i don't like the feeling of seeing my daughter feel that.
So no, most likely i would say no way jose to that.
There is no way in hell i would ever let my daughter, if i have one - compete in such futile events.
It deprives children of childhoods, makes the grow up before their time and has them being too competitive for their age.
Little girls, should be playing with dolls and having tea parties - not prancing around on a walkway looking 10 years their senior.
That depends.
1. Whats the age? I wouldn't put my 2 year old daughter in a pagent. Maybe an age where I could stand seeing her in makeup.
2. Do you have the money? If you are having trouble with bills, are in debt, etc. probably not a good idea. It costs alot of money. If you inherited a billion dollars maybe.
3. Does the child want it or do you want it? Is the child doing it to please you or doing it cause they are hacing fun?
If my children ever want to, and it doesn't interfere with school or daily life (ex; I don't want my 6 yr old walking around with makeup on unless it's in a pageant and nowhere else) then I guess I see no problem with it...but the moment my child wants to stop or it starts effecting them in other ways, then they are done with them. I've seen how ';into it'; some mothers get...their children seem unhappy and plastic...and that is not the way a child's life should be.
We used to be in them to get recognition for our dancing talents, that's all. My other sisters ended up twirling in college so it's good to get your name out there. They are actually fun, but if you do put your kids in them do the city ones- not the ones where people are trying to make money off you.
I saw a special years ago with someone named Swan Brooner and what these kids go through. I think its more for the parents to say I have the best baby, etc. I mean, makeup on an infant. Ridiculous!
I find them appaling. There are so many other ways to display your beautiful child's talents. Plus, after all the hair, make-up, fake tans, fake teeth called ';flippers';, etc. they look like creepy 30 year-olds.
Barf. thats my view.
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